Online dating first message to a man
If you want to meet a man at a bar, you cross the room, plant yourself eight feet to his diagonal, wait for eye contact and smile. While you might have “made the first move”, you’re still in control, since he has to approach you. Emails that tell a man that he’s interesting are dull.
Emails that tell a man that you hope he writes back are weak.
We analyzed over 500,000 first contacts on our dating site, Ok Cupid.
Our program looked at keywords and phrases, how they affected reply rates, and what trends were statistically significant.
That is EXACTLY the metaphor I use for private clients in describing the “tone” you want to capture in your initial contact.HOWEVER, the game totally changes if a straight woman starts messaging.If a straight woman messages a man, that man will most likely be more attractive than her (since everyoneis a reacher).POSTSCRIPT As to HOW to do something like that, here’s a link to my Finding the One Online program, which spends a full hour explaining how to email people online. Evan, Can you give an example of what would be an effective e-mail for a woman to write to a man? Eg, say you both have a love for adventure travel — you see that he’s been trekking in Nepal, and has visited the Amazon…